10 Signs Of A Healthy Relationship

By :  Swati Chauhan 

Relationships can be quite complex and there exists no definite ‘How-to-guide manual’ for building the perfect healthy relationship (wish there was!).

People grow and change over time and with them their relationships too go through their up and down graph but there certainly are some trademark characteristics that couple’s in a healthy relationship display in common. Let’s see what they are:



1. A Healthy relationship requires that You are emotionally not dependent on each other for being happy:

This is the foremost pre-requisite of a healthy and long lasting relation that the people involved do not depend on each other to feel good about themselves or to take away their worries; instead they are mature people with a positive outlook for life and high self worth.



Happy Couple



2. You engage in productive arguments:

Since no two people are 100% alike, it is natural that some friction will be created when they share the same space 24 hours in a day.

It is also impossible for them to be in the best of their moods all this while but the couples who survive these rough patches are the one’s that create something meaningful and useful even from arguments and take a step forward in understanding each other better after a discord.


productive arguments




3. You bring out the best in each other:


If the relationship is on the right track, you will not only enjoy each other’s company tremendously and have fun and laugh together but you will realize that your best personality traits come out in each other’s company and you love yourself when you are together.



bring out the best in each other




4. You share Unconditional Love in a healthy relationship:

No matter how much efforts you put into making things work a healthy relationship can only be based on true unconditional love. As cliché as it may sound,  happy couples rise above the ‘Me’ and ‘I’ and rejoice in each others happiness even if it means sacrificing their own to an extent that the idea of individual happiness becomes obsolete.



unconditional love




5. You enjoy time together and also apart:


The best relationships are never the clingy type’s infact they allow the people involved to give each other the time and space to pursue their individual interests without getting possessive or feeling threatened.



couple dancing 


6. You value not only your partner but also the 

    things valuable to him/her: 


To truly value a person, one needs to value his likes and dislikes too and show visible interest in helping him pursue his likes for building a lasting and healthy relationship.


couples doing things together



 7. You feel emotionally and physically secure :

To know someone is there for you no matter what happens is a big mental security and plays a vital role in strengthening relationships. Happy couples see each other as trustworthy and feel safe around each other.


couple saving eachother




8.  You focus on what you like about your partner and

     never miss an opportunity to express your appreciation:

Relationships are the best mirrors to our feeling and emotions.  People sharing strong bonds tend to focus on the good qualities of each other rather than pointing at mistakes and shoving blames. They  cut short on the anger and frustration, over look mistakes and instead By focussing on the good qualities and keeping a positive attitude they tend to build happier and healthier bonds.


thank you





9.  You share warmth, togetherness, laughter ‘n’ unending conversations:




Communication plays a big role and is the back bone of all relationships. Most happy couples are also great friends and share common interest and outlooks on life. They love to talk , spend time and make it a point to be there for each other.

If you miss your partner, rush home to share that big news or the office gossip and look forward to sharing your heart out with your partner your relationship is definitely on the right track.

couple laughing together




10. You do not see walking out as an option:


    A relationship will most definitely last if you are truly committed to making it work at any cost. This requires great strength , maturity and thoughtfulness especially when things hit rock bottom, imperfections get more visible and arguments and disappointments become inevitable. 

A perfect relation is not just about finding the perfect one and feeling happy at all times, it is also about going through troubled times growing and learning together. about sacrificing that last pizza slice to see him smile and about all the times you never fail to see the good in her even in her crankiest of moods.


married couple

Here’s a toast to togetherness and a love that never gives up.

By :  Swati Chauhan 

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Swati Chauhan is a corporate sales professional turned Freelance writer.  A computer engineer and a Management graduate by education, she is a writer by passion. T he Eureka Life has been voted the Top European Blog 2013 by Circle Of M0ms. Apart from “The Eureka Life”, she also writes at Yahoo, Lifehack , Mamalode , Time Management Magazine and Pick The Brain. For more information follow her on Google+ or connect with her through her Facebook page.






I am Swati Chauhan and i live in the South of Sweden. A computer engineer and a Management graduate by education, I am a writer by passion. I write about personal growth, self motivation,increasing productivity, optimizing life,achieving goals,social skills and increasing the Happiness quotient of your life.


  1. The points you highlighted are actually different than most of such 10-point articles we see all around the Internet. And yes , all the points you brought up are so relevant in forming a good matured relationship. Nice read.

    • Hello Soham,

      Yes, I strongly feel these factors play a big role in strengthening relationships and
      adding that forever magic to them:).

      Thanks for dropping by!


    • Hi Varun,
      Thanks …..what better compliment for a writer than to have his work make sense
      to the readers:).

      Keep Reading!

    • Hi Bemoneyware,

      I don’t think anybody would have all 10 points in their relationship since we are all normal
      flawed human beings (and also if they had they wouldn’t be reading this article in the first
      place:)). But the imp thing is that we have the intent to keep working on all of them. That’s
      more than enough.
      Instead of taking them for granted, I believe just like exercise or any other good habit,
      relationships need to be worked at continuously to keep the love, friendship and bonding
      growing. SO don’t fret if you are miss out on some points just be happy for the ones you
      do.If you have the right intent, soon you will have all the point to boast off:)

  2. Perfect understanding, mutual trust, will to make minor adjustment in adversity, unconditional love, commitment, feeling of respect and responsibility towards each other as well as family can all go a long way to make the marriage work. Love marriage, arranged marriage or live in becomes secondary issue then.

  3. I might be too young and naive to comment on this but I felt compelled to respond. I have read many relationship related lists on the web but most of them focus on the “us” than the individual. The fact that you highlight how important is to be a healthy individual in order to have a healthy relationship really made me think. Thank you for sharing.

    • HI Saheli,

      Thanks for sharing your view and your encouraging feedback. The very purpose of The Eureka Life is to spread knowledge and practical tips that the readers would fund useful in their every day life. I am happy you could relate to the post.


  4. Hi Swati
    Very true ….bit scary though I don’t know where will I stand?

  5. I think Trust is the big factor for a healthy relationship. bcoz if there is no believe between two person there is no healthy relationship. no relationship can exist without believe. Healthy relationships require complete faith in one another in order to get through challenges and rejoice in the good times, too.
    Thanks for sharing your nice post with us

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  7. Life related story about Father and Son. Every one missing to see lot of beautiful things crossing over in our Life. For his son created lot of Confidence in our life.

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